8 Birthdays and 5 Years of "Unanswered" Prayer...

Recently we posted on our Facebook wall,

“We’ve prayed for adoption to reopen in Guatemala and for us to adopt Selena for 5 years now…”

That is literally true and to be more accurate, we’ve prayed for Selena in some way every day for the last five years. A few years ago when we lived in Lewisville, at our first house, we were so confident this process of adoption wouldn’t be too long. We only had Nathan at the time, so we imagined the extra spare bedroom would be Selena’s. We painted it girly colors, used a girly bed cover, etc. And every morning before I would go to work I would kneel right by the bed and pray for Selena. And I don’t think this is uncommon. Most Christian parents probably pray for their children like this, but Selena was 2,000 miles away.

8 Birthdays and 5 Years of Unanswered Prayer


We’ve since moved cities, rented a house, bought a house, had another child, moved churches.. just a ton of change. And just last month, on April 28th, Selena had her 8th birthday.

Eight years!

Wow. We met her when she was two and now she’s eight. That’s six years of pursuing her, loving her, praying for her, hoping for her, and supporting her.


Selena’s probably the first thing in my life that I have consistently prayed for, for a long time. And it makes me really evaluate prayer. I mean..

What is it really?

Does God hear my prayers?

All of them…?

I mean, have you prayed for something for years and not seen the answers?

I have.

Should we give up? Or should we pray for five more years?

There are some days where my heart flirts with despondency (especially on Selena’s birthdays that keep passing), but by God’s grace, at the depths of my soul I believe that God has purposes I don’t see.. that He’s good.. that He loves me.

So let’s walk together down this road of normal Christian experience. We can encourage each other along the way.

Now it's your turn. What have you have been praying for and not seen answers too? What helps you trust the Lord? Leave a comment below..

Grace and Peace,


If you haven’t downloaded the Hymns For Selena album, consider that today. Pay what you’d like, knowing that 100% of it we are sending straight to Selena.