Is God Withholding Good From Me?

Do you ever feel like God is withholding something from you? And I’m not talking about a new car or some bling-bling. What about legitimately good stuff (not that cars and bling are inherently evil). Like what about desiring to be married or maybe a pregnancy that won’t happen, or maybe someone you’ve been praying for to be saved? I think about this a lot. I think every Christian struggles at some level with this feeling, if they’re honest. In our family’s context it’s adoption. Giving someone a family that doesn’t have one is an amazing thing. So why would God shut down a whole county’s International adoption system? We can only presume upon the particular, detailed ‘why’ of life circumstances like that, but we have pointers revealed to us in the Scriptures that help us not to make shipwreck of our faith, as we walk the difficult road of feeling like God is withholding good from us. Here are a few scriptures that help us when we feel this way. Psalm 84:11

 “For no good thing does he withhold from those who walk uprightly. O Lord of hosts, blessed is the one who trusts in you.”

God does not withhold good from His children. If we are walking uprightly with the Lord then God is not holding things back from us that would be good for us. We are called to trust Him, and in that we will be blessed.

James 1:17

“Every good gift and every perfect gift is from above, coming down from the Father of lights with whom there is no variation or shadow due to change.”

Sometimes it is easy to forget the good that God has done to us already. It’s so easy to take those things for granted and focus on what we are not getting in the moment. God does not change his disposition towards us. He doesn’t give us good, then hold some back, then give it again only to withhold it later. That is not our God. God is the same. He has given us good gifts and remembering that should help us in our perspective.

Romans 8:32

 “He who did not spare his own Son but gave him up for us all, how will he not also with him graciously give us all things?”

Because God did the most difficult thing in sending us his only Son, everything else is easy for God. That means that when he doesn’t give us what we think He should, we can trust His wisdom and Fatherly provision. One day we will rule the world with Him. We will own everything. This should help us trust Him more.

You can literally go all over the Bible to read passages about God’s sovereignty over what he brings and does not bring into our lives. When you take those passages, and combine them with others that talk about God’s character and wisdom, it becomes solid ground to stand on in the midst of waiting on good things in our lives. God is after one thing most of all, namely His glory. All of life will be consumed into that goal. And because God’s glory is not at odds with our joy, let us press in to trust Him when we feel like there is good that He is not giving us.

This is not easy. I admit I fall often, sometimes daily, and have to come back to these verses. And through the testimony of Scripture and prayer I find comfort and peace.